Come On.... Be Truthful...
Do You Get That Irritated Feeling?
T hat irritated feeling....come on, you know what I'm talking about. Well, I'd like to give you a bouquet of flowers. Roses always make a person feel better.
You get up early in the morning, that is the only time you know you will have some privacy today. You make that pot of coffee, get the bed made, freshen up for the day, make a little breakfast and then sit down for your meditation.Oh...does it feel good. NO phone ringing, No moaning, No orders given to you, No messes to clean up. It's your time! YES, it feels soooo good. You take that phone off the hook so NO ONE wakes your parent up. You keep the lights low so it doesn't shine in their room. You try to be as quiet as a mouse so you don't wake them up. Then all of a sudden, you hear that walker coming down the hallway, and yes you feel irritated and overwhelmed and you just want to cry because you know that your day is not yours anymore. Your day will be filled with everything that your parent wants or needs, forget YOU. Yes, I had these feelings quite often. Not as much now, but it still creeps in every once in a while and guilt????.....oh, you start feeling so guilty Like this morning, I had my plans on what I would get done. Now, normally mom sleeps until at least 9 am and that gives me some breathing room for myself BUT this morning she woke up at 7:30 and it did put a crimp in my little time slot. I did get that irritated feeling but I immediately start thinking of plan B. I have been giving myself a lot of talks the last few months and surprising enough, so far it is working. Probably because I will not let myself miss my support group. Very important to be around others who can identify with me. In fact, my little secret was one of the topics at the meeting the other night. If you are tired of being irritated all the time then keep this thought in your mind at all times.
"Do you want to be RIGHT or
Do you want to be HAPPY?"
Yes, this is the secret. It's simple but not easy. It has taken me several years to decide to be happy and not right all the time. Tell yourself just like you would a close friend that could be in this same situation. Step out of the picture and visualize a friend and that you are trying to help them. Visualize what you would say to them. Just pretend....sounds stupid but it is not. Think about it. If a very close friend came to you dealing with the caregiving issue that you have and dealing with all kinds of feelings of guilt and irritation, WHAT WOULD YOU TELL THEM? Can you take your own advice? Try it....you might just find you are your best friend and ally. We try to make this whole process complicated and time consuming when the answer is right in front of us. Just make a decision that you don't have to be right ALL the time and you will be much happier than you ever thought you could be. Remember, if you get irritated, I am here if you need someone to talk to...just go to my contact page and click. That simple! I will get back with you as quick as I am able to. I will! PROMISE To your success and Till the next time.....
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